I am grateful for my friends, every single one of them, male and female. But if I’m being honest, my sisters have held me in ways that words sometimes fail to capture. Through the dark days, the energetic days, the gloomy days and really, at any time of the day.

And when I say sisters, I don’t only mean biological ones. I mean my sisters from different wombs, those who show up and show out for me, consistently.

“Sisterhood is not about bloodlines, it’s about lifelines; women who carry you when your strength feels like it has run out.”

This is a special appreciation post for the girl's girl.

💭 “A girl’s girl isn’t afraid to say: I see you, I love you, I’m rooting for you.”

Their minds, my God. Such brilliant women. Their humor, their ideas, their plans. The way they seem to have a solution for everything and the way they show up without hesitation.

Even my internet sisters, some of whom don’t even know me in person, still find ways to make me feel seen. I post something and they hype me up until I feel like the best thing to exist after Nigerian Jollof rice. (Yes, I am officially changing the yardstick from sliced bread to Jollof rice because honestly, who made that bread rule anyway?)

💭 “Clap for your sisters until it’s your turn, that’s what real love looks like.”

For so long, women have been made to shrink. To hide. To feel small, inadequate, or incapable next to men. We’ve been told to present ourselves in certain ways, so we can be “marriageable.” To not be too ambitious, because ambition supposedly makes us less submissive wives. Trained our whole lives to be desirable to men, and not to live for ourselves.

But I love how the world is changing. Now, women walk boldly in corridors of power. We make big moves, take up space, and do the hard things they once believed only men should do.

💭 “When women rise, entire generations rise with them.”

And this is why sisterhood matters. Because while the world still tries to tame us, shrink us, or convince us we are “too much,” our sisters remind us that we are enough. That we are capable. That we deserve to take up every inch of space.

So never lose yourself, or your girls, for a man who wouldn’t lose anything for you.

💭 “Your sisters are not competition, they are your safety net.”

The world has done a good job of making women feel like they’re in constant competition with each other like life is a scoreboard where we’re ranked by who got married first, who bagged a PhD, who launched a business, or who’s building the perfect family.

“Sisterhood is saying: I see you. I hear you. I’ve got you.”

And when you’re standing still in your own season, it can feel like you’re already behind. But the truth is, life is not a race, and another woman’s achievements don’t reduce yours.

Her light does not dim yours; if anything, it shows you that it’s possible.

We were never designed to compete with each other, we were designed to complete each other, to collaborate, to cheer one another on until it’s our turn to shine.

“The truest sisterhood is found in women who want to see you win, even when it’s not their season.”

To my sisters, near and far, physical and virtual: thank you. For your presence, your brilliance, your love, and your light. I hope I always show up for you the way you’ve shown up for me.

“Being a girl’s girl means clapping the loudest for your sisters, even when you’re still finding your own stage.”

Remember to “be the woman who makes other women believe in themselves again.”

Please appreciate the women in your life in the comment section, leave their names, their pictures if you want, share this with them as well.

Love,

Your sister

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